Always make a new friend

This morning my cellphone was beeping. There was a text message, from someone I have met last week in an inspiring event of Educational Exhibition at Jakarta Convention Center. (I was there to support Pancasila University, by sharing and motivating to develop a better understanding for future career of students, especially in Psychology). It was one of the audience I invited to come forward experiencing the power of Psychology, who was so enthusiastic and asked for my number. He is around 18 years, just about to graduate and searching for suitable education.

In his text message, he asked me a question that made me think twice. What is my keys of success so I could be one considerably successful psychologist in Indonesia ? Am I really successful ? Some people may say so, some people may not. But what I have done so far, in my 19 years of experience as psychologist ? Just to give it short, I reply him my keys are :

1. Never stop learning and always ready to share with others.

Many skills I achieved now are from this attitude. I learn every time, every where, and to every one. I learn from my parent. I learn from my husband, I learn from my children, I even can learn from someones I don't know only by watching their happiness when they share their only food with laugh and joy.


2. Always respect seniors in many ways and be kind to people.

I strongly push myself to always respect parents, lecturers, senior colleagues, or even anyone we meet in our lives. I used to and always wish to continue this habit to open conversation with anyone, maybe someone we met on the plane, or someone with whom we are waiting for queue in the hospital. At least we share smiles and nod to each other just show respect. My father in-law always said to us," You owe everybody's money for your success....". I understand it is not about the money literally, but it is about the important roles of everyone around you.

3. Always be grateful to God for what ever He has given you.

This attitude somehow help me to always search for solution than begging for attention or complaint about my life. My skill in Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Hypnotherapy even strengthen this attitude, making me more expert to change my mood in seconds. There is nothing in the world that can turn you down unless you agree on it.

4. Always 'on the go' attitude, keep your motivation 'on the boil'.

I may feel my husband sometimes becomes so demanding and 'pushy'. I may feel my mom sometimes becomes so difficult, giving me too much pressure. Or I may feel my children are so 'too much too handle'. I am only a common wife, a common daughter, a common mom, I could not do anything they want. But, to tell you the truth, this attitude does not lead you to anything good, instead of growing more grumpy attitude toward them. Then I choose to switch my mind into a better understanding. This duties are so honorable, and I am more than only a common wife-daughter-mom to fulfill the tasks. Then, boom, I could have a different attitude with a different motivation. This is also called PASSION. Passion to serve your loved ones. No matter what.

I may have another keys for success, but I will continue some other time. My princess has awakened from her beauty sleep, and I want to play with her.