Today is my dad's 72 birthday.
We always manage to be together since I was a little kid to blow candle(s) on top of any kind of cake. I can never stop being grateful for having him as my dad. He is always there for me, just to stroke my shoulder or shed my tears or enlighten me or inspire me. I can be what ever I am now because of him. I remember when I fell, he taught me to stand up. I remember when I was down, he taught me to cheer up. He always says, there is nothing in the world that can take our dignity away. We are what we think we are.
I love you, Dad. I wish I could continue your passion and deliver your spirit to my children.
Kamis, 01 April 2010
Senin, 01 Maret 2010
I always need someone else
For the last 10 days, I have been so busy with my duties that absorbed lots of time and energy. But I managed to get into this blog entry several time, unfortunately I could not open it. On top of it, my eldest son who has promised me to support me with the making of this blog, was also busy with his soccer thing.
Even during the long week end, I got stuck with my laying-around activities with no serious effort to open this blog. Well, to tell you the truth, it is not fully laying-around activities though, because I still could manage producing one training material, settling my office's end of the month salary payment for my colleagues and staffs, also reviewing some organizational works, which makes my husband raised his eyebrow a bit.
Yesterday, I made promise to myself to add one more entry about my inspiring life, but I filled the day with a bit inconvenience due to my Monday appointment that urge me to go to one hell of a traffic area in Jakarta with quite an effort for parking space. I sent message to my dad in case he is willing to accompany me. He replied in minutes with short answer, OK.
This appointment is a TV shot to promote the importance of early education and preschool teacher contest. I thanked God for my decision having my dad as a company. We could have some chit chat in the car and get his driver driving the car, of course. After we arrive, we were informed by the security that we should go the tenth floor by elevator and took the emergency stairs to reach the location. With his 72 years old of age, he is very energetic to climb the stairs with me, holding hands. We were again so lucky, it was only 12 - 14 steps to reach the destination floor.
The shot was so brief and smooth, without necessary cuts or correction, so we can finish within an hour. What was so inspiring ? It was the topics that inspiring me. I was asked about the importance of early education for preschoolers. I was also asked about what is my evaluation standards for the contest held in June. But when I was asked about my considerably best teacher of my life, I realized that I have so many I consider as best teacher of my life. I had my preschool teacher who 'kicked' me out from her class to get into the higher class, because I was considerably disturbing and annoying her by volunteering to teach the class. I had my 5th grade teacher who inspired me to analyze thing by asking 'open ended' questions more than 'close ended' ones. I had my 8th grade teacher who inspired me in physics. I had my 11th grade teacher who almost get frustrated with my habit to walk here and there during class. I had my lecturer who inspired me to learn more about the deep human mind. But, I also had my lifelong informal teacher, who teaches me everything about the philosophy of life, my dad.
I must admit I learn many things from my dad, I learn about the spirit of life, I learn about integrity, I learn about hardworking with heart, I learn to get multi talented, I learn to get up after each fall, I learn about becoming a better person each day. I can not stop thinking what else he has done to support me all this years.
But I realized that I also learn from anybody else, from my mom, from my husband, from my father in law, from my friend, or even from my children. I realized I really enjoy learning.
Then after me and my dad reach my office, and he left me for another duty, I got another 2 clients at the office and soon came back home at 5. I hugged and kissed my 3 children before sending some emails and ready for another TV shot about teens. Another text message came, reminding me about another duty as columnist. Then I faced my laptop again to finish the job.
When it was all over, I remember about my promise to come to this blog. I still don't have the clue why I could not signed in. Then I called my handsome eldest 13 years old son to help me out. Within seconds he analyzed the problem and recognize it was the password problem. I was totally sure that I have typed the right password with the right setting. But I saw him typing back the same password, which I have tried several times for the last 10 days, and boom, it was easily opened. And he even bothered to say, " wow, you really surely definitely can not live without me, mom !"
It surely inspired me again, yes, we can not live alone. We need our parent, we need our spouse, we need our teacher, we need our siblings, we need our friend, we need our children, we always need someone else to live our life to the fullest.
Even during the long week end, I got stuck with my laying-around activities with no serious effort to open this blog. Well, to tell you the truth, it is not fully laying-around activities though, because I still could manage producing one training material, settling my office's end of the month salary payment for my colleagues and staffs, also reviewing some organizational works, which makes my husband raised his eyebrow a bit.
Yesterday, I made promise to myself to add one more entry about my inspiring life, but I filled the day with a bit inconvenience due to my Monday appointment that urge me to go to one hell of a traffic area in Jakarta with quite an effort for parking space. I sent message to my dad in case he is willing to accompany me. He replied in minutes with short answer, OK.
This appointment is a TV shot to promote the importance of early education and preschool teacher contest. I thanked God for my decision having my dad as a company. We could have some chit chat in the car and get his driver driving the car, of course. After we arrive, we were informed by the security that we should go the tenth floor by elevator and took the emergency stairs to reach the location. With his 72 years old of age, he is very energetic to climb the stairs with me, holding hands. We were again so lucky, it was only 12 - 14 steps to reach the destination floor.
The shot was so brief and smooth, without necessary cuts or correction, so we can finish within an hour. What was so inspiring ? It was the topics that inspiring me. I was asked about the importance of early education for preschoolers. I was also asked about what is my evaluation standards for the contest held in June. But when I was asked about my considerably best teacher of my life, I realized that I have so many I consider as best teacher of my life. I had my preschool teacher who 'kicked' me out from her class to get into the higher class, because I was considerably disturbing and annoying her by volunteering to teach the class. I had my 5th grade teacher who inspired me to analyze thing by asking 'open ended' questions more than 'close ended' ones. I had my 8th grade teacher who inspired me in physics. I had my 11th grade teacher who almost get frustrated with my habit to walk here and there during class. I had my lecturer who inspired me to learn more about the deep human mind. But, I also had my lifelong informal teacher, who teaches me everything about the philosophy of life, my dad.
I must admit I learn many things from my dad, I learn about the spirit of life, I learn about integrity, I learn about hardworking with heart, I learn to get multi talented, I learn to get up after each fall, I learn about becoming a better person each day. I can not stop thinking what else he has done to support me all this years.
But I realized that I also learn from anybody else, from my mom, from my husband, from my father in law, from my friend, or even from my children. I realized I really enjoy learning.
Then after me and my dad reach my office, and he left me for another duty, I got another 2 clients at the office and soon came back home at 5. I hugged and kissed my 3 children before sending some emails and ready for another TV shot about teens. Another text message came, reminding me about another duty as columnist. Then I faced my laptop again to finish the job.
When it was all over, I remember about my promise to come to this blog. I still don't have the clue why I could not signed in. Then I called my handsome eldest 13 years old son to help me out. Within seconds he analyzed the problem and recognize it was the password problem. I was totally sure that I have typed the right password with the right setting. But I saw him typing back the same password, which I have tried several times for the last 10 days, and boom, it was easily opened. And he even bothered to say, " wow, you really surely definitely can not live without me, mom !"
It surely inspired me again, yes, we can not live alone. We need our parent, we need our spouse, we need our teacher, we need our siblings, we need our friend, we need our children, we always need someone else to live our life to the fullest.
Jumat, 19 Februari 2010
Persistence brings success
I went home trying to figure out what was the inspiring story for today.... I have decided to tell you about my habit of writing my things to-do in a small-hand-pocket notes. (My husband always teases me by saying, in the advance and digital world of technology, I am still using my conventional note pad besides my cellphone. Anyway, that is not the main point of this story).
Coming back to the story.....
I started to write my things to do since I saw my dad, during the time of waiting for my 5th grade school report given by my teacher, he always seemed to think about something and write down in his note pad. I remembered asking him what he was doing, and he answered me that he always write down everything to ensure himself not to forget important things.
Since then, I follow him writing down my tasks for the day. If I was able to accomplish the task, then I thick to mark it as done. If not, then I cross to mark it as undone, and write it again in the next page for tomorrow's task to do. And here am, after thirty one years, i still have the habit, that always help me in keeping track on my tasks. Crossing does not mean giving up, it just means I need one more day to accomplish my task. I never get bored or depressed if I can not fulfill any task for the day.
I have many different lists to do. I may have something to do for my husband, or for my parent, or for my brother or sister, for my children, for my staffs, for my friends, for my clients or for my organization.
Today I realized, I have managed to clear up some important tasks. I noticed that persistence is the key for this success.
Coming back to the story.....
I started to write my things to do since I saw my dad, during the time of waiting for my 5th grade school report given by my teacher, he always seemed to think about something and write down in his note pad. I remembered asking him what he was doing, and he answered me that he always write down everything to ensure himself not to forget important things.
Since then, I follow him writing down my tasks for the day. If I was able to accomplish the task, then I thick to mark it as done. If not, then I cross to mark it as undone, and write it again in the next page for tomorrow's task to do. And here am, after thirty one years, i still have the habit, that always help me in keeping track on my tasks. Crossing does not mean giving up, it just means I need one more day to accomplish my task. I never get bored or depressed if I can not fulfill any task for the day.
I have many different lists to do. I may have something to do for my husband, or for my parent, or for my brother or sister, for my children, for my staffs, for my friends, for my clients or for my organization.
Today I realized, I have managed to clear up some important tasks. I noticed that persistence is the key for this success.
Rabu, 17 Februari 2010
Always make a new friend
This morning my cellphone was beeping. There was a text message, from someone I have met last week in an inspiring event of Educational Exhibition at Jakarta Convention Center. (I was there to support Pancasila University, by sharing and motivating to develop a better understanding for future career of students, especially in Psychology). It was one of the audience I invited to come forward experiencing the power of Psychology, who was so enthusiastic and asked for my number. He is around 18 years, just about to graduate and searching for suitable education.
In his text message, he asked me a question that made me think twice. What is my keys of success so I could be one considerably successful psychologist in Indonesia ? Am I really successful ? Some people may say so, some people may not. But what I have done so far, in my 19 years of experience as psychologist ? Just to give it short, I reply him my keys are :
1. Never stop learning and always ready to share with others.
Many skills I achieved now are from this attitude. I learn every time, every where, and to every one. I learn from my parent. I learn from my husband, I learn from my children, I even can learn from someones I don't know only by watching their happiness when they share their only food with laugh and joy.
2. Always respect seniors in many ways and be kind to people.
I strongly push myself to always respect parents, lecturers, senior colleagues, or even anyone we meet in our lives. I used to and always wish to continue this habit to open conversation with anyone, maybe someone we met on the plane, or someone with whom we are waiting for queue in the hospital. At least we share smiles and nod to each other just show respect. My father in-law always said to us," You owe everybody's money for your success....". I understand it is not about the money literally, but it is about the important roles of everyone around you.
3. Always be grateful to God for what ever He has given you.
This attitude somehow help me to always search for solution than begging for attention or complaint about my life. My skill in Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Hypnotherapy even strengthen this attitude, making me more expert to change my mood in seconds. There is nothing in the world that can turn you down unless you agree on it.
4. Always 'on the go' attitude, keep your motivation 'on the boil'.
I may feel my husband sometimes becomes so demanding and 'pushy'. I may feel my mom sometimes becomes so difficult, giving me too much pressure. Or I may feel my children are so 'too much too handle'. I am only a common wife, a common daughter, a common mom, I could not do anything they want. But, to tell you the truth, this attitude does not lead you to anything good, instead of growing more grumpy attitude toward them. Then I choose to switch my mind into a better understanding. This duties are so honorable, and I am more than only a common wife-daughter-mom to fulfill the tasks. Then, boom, I could have a different attitude with a different motivation. This is also called PASSION. Passion to serve your loved ones. No matter what.
I may have another keys for success, but I will continue some other time. My princess has awakened from her beauty sleep, and I want to play with her.
In his text message, he asked me a question that made me think twice. What is my keys of success so I could be one considerably successful psychologist in Indonesia ? Am I really successful ? Some people may say so, some people may not. But what I have done so far, in my 19 years of experience as psychologist ? Just to give it short, I reply him my keys are :
1. Never stop learning and always ready to share with others.
Many skills I achieved now are from this attitude. I learn every time, every where, and to every one. I learn from my parent. I learn from my husband, I learn from my children, I even can learn from someones I don't know only by watching their happiness when they share their only food with laugh and joy.
2. Always respect seniors in many ways and be kind to people.
I strongly push myself to always respect parents, lecturers, senior colleagues, or even anyone we meet in our lives. I used to and always wish to continue this habit to open conversation with anyone, maybe someone we met on the plane, or someone with whom we are waiting for queue in the hospital. At least we share smiles and nod to each other just show respect. My father in-law always said to us," You owe everybody's money for your success....". I understand it is not about the money literally, but it is about the important roles of everyone around you.
3. Always be grateful to God for what ever He has given you.
This attitude somehow help me to always search for solution than begging for attention or complaint about my life. My skill in Cognitive Behavior Therapy and Hypnotherapy even strengthen this attitude, making me more expert to change my mood in seconds. There is nothing in the world that can turn you down unless you agree on it.
4. Always 'on the go' attitude, keep your motivation 'on the boil'.
I may feel my husband sometimes becomes so demanding and 'pushy'. I may feel my mom sometimes becomes so difficult, giving me too much pressure. Or I may feel my children are so 'too much too handle'. I am only a common wife, a common daughter, a common mom, I could not do anything they want. But, to tell you the truth, this attitude does not lead you to anything good, instead of growing more grumpy attitude toward them. Then I choose to switch my mind into a better understanding. This duties are so honorable, and I am more than only a common wife-daughter-mom to fulfill the tasks. Then, boom, I could have a different attitude with a different motivation. This is also called PASSION. Passion to serve your loved ones. No matter what.
I may have another keys for success, but I will continue some other time. My princess has awakened from her beauty sleep, and I want to play with her.
My birthday
Another one year, another search for improvement. I realize that I have been developing so far all this year, not only physically, but also mentally, socially and spiritually. I always use my birthday event as my contemplation time, to evaluate myself. I am a totally different person compared to many years ago. Just like my book, released on September 17, 2008. I am 'metamorphosing', always 'on the go' attitude, and search for inspiring stories to boost my motivation and to enhance life.
Selasa, 16 Februari 2010
New Inspiration Today
As I finished my morning rituals and ready to go for office today, my husband (out of the blue) said a long hello to me as if I was just came back from outer space.......
Feeling a bit funny, I asked him what was the reason for doing so and I got my own bell ringing as he said that I have been pretty busy alone doing my stuff.
Instead of becoming sensitive or angry, like I used to do in the past, I managed myself to dig down deeper inside me and searching for an inspiration........
I wish I could see my own face during the searching process, when my husband came back with an inspiring idea. Why don't you start a blog together with our first son, to provide him with more stimulation on becoming a self-employed person. Pst..pst..pst.,pst, then my brain goes directly to recent article on newspaper about current situation on Indonesian students who prefer working for others to starting their own business.
Frankly speaking, at the beginning, I was more reluctant to the idea, hoping that it is better him to teach our son than me. But after a few hours later, during my psychological practice services with exactly 5 clients in 5 hours, my brain was kind of splitting and processing, telling me to makes this idea come true.
For another hours, during my dedication to my children, searching for food and shoes, I manage to deliver this inspiration to my first son. Even though I must use what I called as 'my brilliant technique' to motivate him by saying " Dear son, I love you so much and so proud of you for having your achievement in soccer this far. You are very keen and serious to even spend most of your time (which is almost everyday including week end) for soccer. But i would be more proud of you if you could balance with other things, such as writing blogs.
Now, here we are. mom and son, with his new soccer shoes on the table, starting our new blog.......... Hugs and kisses for my inspiring husband and father........
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